I once attended a writer’s meetup which slowly devolved into a relationships-complaining meetup. The writers there happened to be having relationship problems so we talked about them. After sitting and listening to the kinds of problems they were having with their relationships, I started to notice a pattern--people were getting into bad relationships that I thought were avoidable. And while most everyone claimed to be able to see the problems with their partners, still remained involved for some reason.
As I listened to these people talking about their awful relationships, a lot of things went through my mind. Chief among them: are these people staying in bad relationships out of scarcity or what? Scarcity is when someone believes they have limited dating options such that they inadvertently behave in a way that actually does limit their dating options. They turn the opposite sex off, in other words.
MORE LIKE THEM THAN YOU REALIZE
If the people at the meetup were describing their partners accurately, I was amazed how they were able to maintain a relationship at all. I heard the term “narcissistic” used more than once to describe them. A narcissist needs constant attention. It seems some narcissists believe everyone is like them as well because will give you undo praise and attention if you let them. Unfortunately, this priase and attention must be repaid in full. If you have confidence you don’t need or want their praise though.
If you find yourself continually being drawn into these little dramas, then you should look in the mirror because you’re probably more like them than you realize.